Forgot to Read Prayers Before Relation, What Should I Do?

If You Forgot To Read Prayer Before Related
What if you forget to read the prayer before having sex? Do you have to read the prayer afterwards?

Answer:

Bismillah was shalatu was greeting ‘ala Rasulillah, wa ba’du,

Reading prayers before relating has many benefits. Among them,

First, As a veil of human genitals from the view of Jinn

In the hadith from Abu Said al-Khudri radhiyallahu ‘anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu‘ alaihi wa sallam said,

سِتْرُ ما بَيْنَ أَعْيُنِ الْجِنِّ وَبَيْنَ عَوْرَاتِ بَنِي آدَمَ ، إِذَا خَلَعَ الرَّجُلُ ثَوْبَهُ أَنْ يَقُولَ: بِسْمَِ

"The veil between the eyes of the genie and the nakedness of the people of adam (man) is when someone takes off his clothes, he reads: bismillah. (Narrated by Ibn Adi, at-Thabrani in Mu'jam al-Ausath - al-Mathalib al-Aliyah, al-Hafidz Ibn Hajar, no. 37).

Second, the child of the relationship is protected by God

In the hadith of Ibn Abbas radhiallahu ‘anhuma, that the Prophet sallallaahu‘ alaihi wa sallam said,

"If one of you (husband) wants to associate with his wife, and he reads the prayer:

بَّاسِمِ اللَّهِ ، اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا

"By (mentioning) the name of Allah, O Allah, keep us away from (the disturbance) of Satan and take away Satan from the provision that You have given us."

If God destined (birth) the child of the relationship, then Satan will not be able to harm the child forever. "(Narrated by Bukhari 141 and Muslim 1434)

What if you forget?

If you forget, of course the opportunity to get the benefits above will be lost. It's just that, this prayer is not mandatory, and there is no danger if left behind. And there is no suggestion to read it in the middle of the heart or after watching.

In the Syabakah Islamiyah Fatwa stated,

وهذا الدعاء مستحب لا واجب ، فمن تركه ولو عمدا لم يكن عليه جناح

This prayer is recommended and not mandatory. Therefore, whoever leaves it, even if intentionally, is innocent. (Fatwa Syabakah Islamiyah, no. 146507)

Will the child be rebellious?

If God is destined to be a child, will his child be rebellious?

one reason to protect children from Satan's temptation is to read prayers before engaging in sexual relations.

It's just that it needs to be understood, that it is only one reason. That is, there are still other causes that shape the character of a child.

The cleric asserted that this hadith does not show that every child born from the results of bodily relationships which were previously preceded by prayer, he will become a capable human being, free from every sin and temptation of Satan.

Because every incident has a cause and there is a barrier. The efforts of parents, who pray when they want to have sex, are one reason that the child survives the temptations of Satan. However, in the course of his life, there are many barriers and other causes, which make this child unable to get rid of the temptations of Satan, so he does immorality. (Taisirul Alam Syarah Umdatul Ahkam, 1/588)

Therefore, it is not a guarantee that every child born of a bodily relationship that begins with prayer will surely be a pious child. Likewise, vice versa, is not a guarantee, every child born from an intercourse without beginning a prayer, or even born from an illegitimate relationship (zina), will surely become a child of Satan, or an army of demons.

Among the efforts that parents can make is to pay attention to education during the child's developmental period. Allah says,

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ

"O ye who believe, take care of yourself and your family from the fire of hell whose fuel is man and stone." (QS. At-Tahrim: 6)

Including praying that the family is always taken care of, and given guidance. Like the prayer that Allah mentioned in Surat al-Furqan when God told me about the character of Ibadurrahman,

وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا

"And those who say:" Our Lord, give us our wives and our descendants as our hearts (ours), and make us priests for those who fear. "(Surat al-Furqan: 74) .

So, Allahu 'alam.